Line Crossed

Have you guys heard about this woman? Nutshell...she's Britain's soon to be oldest new Mom...at age 66! Some reports have her carrying twins:O

Now, I was talking with Husband about this...am I wrong? It seems to me, that lines have to be drawn...don't 'cha think? We are talking about a 66 year old single Mom here! She will basically have to live, ooohhhh FOREVER, to raise these babies!

I'm not saying that all folks should be denied fertility treatments. I used fertility treatments to get pregnant with Miss Peach. What I do think is that lines need to be drawn. I don't know where the line should be? I do know when you have crossed it...

If you are a 66 year old woman carrying twins...the line has been crossed. If you are a single Mom delivering 8 babies...the line has been crossed.

Good Lord people...just because you CAN get a 66 year old woman pregnant...doesn't mean you SHOULD! Thoughts on this one...am I missing something...has the world gone crazy?

26 comments

  1. Wow.
    I couldn't agree more. Just because they can, doesn't mean they should.

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  2. Oh wow.... That's...sad. You're absolutely right. Just because you CAN get a 66yo woman preggers, doesn't mean you SHOULD. Wow. I can barely keep up with my kids at 34....

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  3. Yeah I can see stopping them from the attempt, the doctors are the crazy ones. Once they ARE pregnant, and WANT to be pregnant, tho, not like anyone can MAKE em give it up.

    BUT if there is some sanctions against these doctors, or even some suggested STANDARDS then pressure can be put on them to just STOP THIS MADNESS :o/

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  4. I totally agree with you! That's absurd, totally. How unfair for these children. Their mother will be 70 when they are 4. Wow. That is scary and sad. I don't think it is right at all.

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  5. It makes me wonder why she didn't have a family sooner though. I question that aspect of medicine as well. Just because someone chose to put off having children should they be able to have them at such a late stage of life? I don't know. I enjoy my family so much it's hard to want to deny that joy to another woman, but really I wonder that she didn't wait waaaaay too long and therefore give up her chance? I don't know.

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  6. A few ramblings from the far side of 50...

    When I was young I totally agreed that 'OLD' people shouldn't be having kids. Not old men. Not old women. But then danged if I didn't go and get 'old'. Don't quite know when or how it happened, but suddenly I'm offered the seniors' discount on a pretty regular basis. Funny thing is, I DON'T FEEL OLD! I actually have more personal strength, more patience, more tenacity, and a helluva lot more money than I did when I started having kids. If I hadn't already had the honor of raising some rugrats, I might now be totally interested in doing so.

    With modern medicine, women are living well into their 80s. My MIL turns 80 next month, as a matter of fact, and you would never suspect that she's a day over 70. If she'd had a kid at 66, said kid could expect to be driven crazy by her (just like the rest of us) at least until the age of 20! And she's not alone - there's a whole seniors' center where she lives just chock full vivacious, energetic, well-off, old people who could, if they so chose, do one helluva good job of raising kids. Some already are: their grandkids. But some of the same people who think that old people shouldn't be having kids would be horrified if those same old people refused to take their grandchildren if the need arose. Hmmm... double standard, much?

    Should ALL old ladies be spittin' out tricycle motors? Ummm, NO! But then neither should ALL young ones. At what point do we start telling women what they can do with their bodies, though? -- whether that's to have a kid or to have an abortion or to choose to never have children at all and have her tubes tied in her early 20s? We can't have it both ways, folks. We either have freedom of choice over our bodies, or we have somebody telling us what we can and can't and *have to* do according to THEIR moral or philosophical code. Personally, No thanks. I like thinking for me waaay to much to let somebody else take over!

    So, in closing, I'd just like to say to all you young whippersnappers who think us old farts are incapable of cutting our own meat without your help... :oP***** LOL!

    I hope I'm still around when you get here so I can say, I TOLD YA SO!!! ;o) xoxoxo

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  7. I think it's unfair for a child to be parent-less at age 20 or so.

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  8. While I AGREE with you 100%, I also have to look at the other side of this.

    I can't stand it when total strangers raise judgmental eyebrows at my tantruming child. I would HATE someone tell me how and when I can have my babies...

    On the other hand, Octomom and (insert clever nickname here) are a couple of loonies. Surely there should be someone looking at their motives...

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  9. Yes, yes, and yes. I read about her last week. She'll be 76 when her kid goes into the 4th grade.... *sigh* That's a bit much.

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  10. I just found out that I am pregnant again and my youngest baby is only 5 months old...alot of people might say thats crazy. I think there are alot of cases where people shouldnt pro-create, but unfortunately society doesn't get to say who can be a parent. That's why there are so many foster kids.

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  11. I don't think we should go into telling people if they can or cannot have children (because then we'd be weeding out the stupid people, and then the population would plummet to extinction) but I'm just saying that I'm glad it's not me. I have a hard enough time keeping up with Micah and he's 6. And I'm not even 40.

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  12. Yeah, totally agree with you.
    My honest opinion? Kind of a selfish thing to do. Who's going to raise these kids?

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  13. I can't imagine chasing a toddler around at the age of 70...yikes!

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  14. You need to think about the life of the child. Where will the parent be when the child hits 18? At 66, mom will be 84. Not sure I want to be taking care of a teenager at 84. Kid will graduate from college when mom is 89. Married at 91. Grandkids at 93. This are just the average. Life expectancy for a female in England is??? In 2004, it was 81. Statistically, she won't make it to 18. I love math.

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  15. ok... further more I believe that lines should be drawn when excessive amounts of children are involved. Call me bad names, I don't care- but when you A) use dope and/or B) live on welfare, there should only be X amount of children you can have and keep... does that sound horrible?

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  16. Hmmm. I gave birth to our son two weeks before my 40th birthday. My husband was 55. Now, had someone decreed that my husband and I were too old, I would submit that we both were in a far better place than when we were younger. We were financially, emotionally and stability-wise better prepared than at any other time in our lives. Judgement of others is unfortunate, when you haven't walked in their shoes.

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  17. You know Walking in My Sleep...I like to think that I am a person who always looks at situations from all points of view before I make my decisions.

    That said, a woman who is 40, married to a man that is 55 having a baby is a WORLD away from being 66, single, and expecting twins.

    My point was not to judge the British woman, rather to question the fertility doctors who create this situation.

    I, as someone who needed fertility specialists to get pregnant, feel that quite possibly what they can do, might not necessarily be what they ought do. I am not asking for a "decree" but perhaps it might be time for someone to visit the issue?

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  18. I'm just wondering at what point do the diaper-changing participants swap responsibilities?

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  19. Can you imagine? I'm a couple of years shy of 40 and am done! I'll quite happily chase my grandkids in my 60's, but have another baby? now freakin' way!

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  20. Fertility doctors need to use judgment, just like plastic surgeons. Not everyone should have babies, not everyone should have plastic surgery. I think it really needs to be taken on a case by case basis.

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  21. I'm having multiple Lambergasms tonight, so, yes, the world is crazy. But we couldn't have good crazy without some crazy crazy, could we?

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  22. I'm 46, I CAN still have more kids, but I am not seriously insane, therefore I will NOT have more kids. I had my babies early so that when I got to that age when my uterus starts to pang for another baby I just have my daughter pop them out for me LOL.

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  23. Yes the world has gone crazy. I am totally and utterly with you - lines need to be drawn but they won't be because everyone is too interested in their egos and becoming a star and doing what no one has ever done before and maybe get a book deal and a reality show and international exposure and all of those things that kids need when they come into this world....

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  24. WHY?!? I mean, maybe it's just me, but why on EARTH would you want to have a baby at 66? I had my first at 25 (started trying at 23) for a REASON. Because one day, he will be grown and I will have a life with my husband. Without kids. Good Lord...

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