He's Just Not That Into You

Alright, you know how I work it. I saw the movie...I'm diving in, I'll type in white if I think I'm spoiling anything...highlight if you want to know...

Here's the thing. Did I enjoy the movie? Yes. Was it good? No. Does that make any sense at all? All the chicks had really cute outfits. All the dudes were cute and clever. All the sets were modern and cool. What's not to enjoy with nachos?

My problem...I think the movie completely went against everything the book stands for. The book is about women finally wising up and not taking the bullsh*t that men shovel out. We've all had it chucked our way. I've had guys say "you're too good for me", or "I don't deserve you", or "I'm just not ready for this now", or "I wish I was the right guy for you"...you know? At the time, I kinda bought it. The reality is, those guys weren't that into me. Now that I'm married, all this is lost on me. My point is, single girls, unite against stupid men! Don't get sucked into the crap. Have the confidence in your own self worth to move on when a guy is being a d*ck. That is what the book was preaching.

The problem with the movie is...it completely sells out that theory. Case in point...the Jen An./Ben Affleck couple. They are a couple that lives together for EIGHT years. She is waiting for him to propose. He's not proposing because he doesn't want to marry you. Long story short, she waits it out...they break up...he comes back proposing. There is my problem. That is the happy Hollywood ending...which sells the book down the river.

Another case in point...the single chicky who is navigating/stalking her way through all the guys who aren't calling her back. She finally meets bartender guy who tells it like it is. "These guys don't call you because they are not that into you." Then she decides he is the one and throws herself at him. Guess what "he's not that into her". She walks. In the real world, he wouldn't come back begging months later. In the Hollywood world, he does:P

That's the thing, the point of the book is not to keep throwing yourself at guys who don't treat you the way you deserve to be treated. Maybe I'm just too literal. I knew the second I saw my Husband that he was it. So I'm supposed to buy that bartender/player man didn't know that Chicky poo was the one because he's been a player too long? Yeah...not.

These are just a couple examples. They should have just dropped the book and called it Cute Hollywood Couple Movie. Then I wouldn't have had any problem...There you go;)

15 comments

  1. Interesting take on it, the trailers made it look really good. I'm sad it didn't live up to the book.

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  2. Okay. So I will admit I totally didn't read your post, because I want to see the movie and didn't want it to be spoiled. However, I LOVE the girl from Big Love Ginner Whatsherface that is in the movie. LOVE her!

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  3. Saw it last night. And I totally get that you can like a NOT SO GOOD movie.

    That's how I felt. I'm all whatever about Hollywood endings, but I wish that women could just be a little less . . . doormat-ish.

    But then again, when you are all "Lost in love" (yes, I am alluding to an 80s hit), you are all stupid and stuff.

    But still. Being a doormat just sucks.

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  4. An interesting take on this movie/book. I wonder how much your (my) prospective on it would have been different were we not happily married to our non-d*ickheads.

    For instance, there was a movie that came out about 10 years ago that totally convinced me stay with my loser ex-boyfriend even though we were so obviously wrong for each other and the storyline was completely unrealistic...

    I guess we all see what we want to, right?

    Great post!

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  5. Hmmm.......I guess I'll just have to watch it and see.

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  6. I haven't read the book...maybe I should now. But I thought that in the end, the Jennifer Connelly character WAS moving on without her stupid husband, and the Scarlet Johanson character was too. And I think that Ben Affleck WAS into Jennifer Aniston and their relationship was about compromise. And even though Alex and GiGi ended up together, she totally claimed who she was and what she was before that. I know it probably wasn't what the book was, but it did seem somewhat realistic to me the way it wound around all these different personalities and paths. And to me that seems kind of what relationships are like.

    And I loved the cute outfits and boys too :)

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  7. So since I haven't read the book, I might like it?

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  8. Hum. I didn't read the book. And I'm married so it doesn't apply to my real life anyway. So maybe I'll see it for the cute guys and cute clothes.

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  9. I enjoyed it but I also went in kind of knowing how it would go, as I'd read a lot on it. Same with Twilight, I think the less you expect, the more you get.

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  10. this makes complete sense to me. The idea behind the making of the book into a movie was a good one, but so many things are "changed" due to studio requests. At the end of the day, it's a hack job.
    thats too bad.

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  11. I never read the book but I saw the writer on Oprah a long time ago. I had a friend or 2 that could've benefited from reading it. The movie looked fairly good. I'll probably add it to the "rent when hubs is out of town" list once it is out on video!

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  12. Ok I'm glad I read the spoilers because I probably wasn't going to see it anyway and the book sounds way better. Hollywood can be so lame sometimes.

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  13. I haven't seen the movie yet, but I love this review. I get what you are saying. It sounds like the movie really isn't anything like the book. It sounds like the book just lets the women go on being oblivious and doesn't smarten them up. That's sad. But I still want to see it. ;)

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  14. It's so disappointing to me that some chick flicks have such sappy endings. Then I ask myself what else did I expect?!

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  15. I saw this today. I liked it that they had male AND female characters who were dumpers/dumpees. That they showed that guys CAN be as into you as you are into them, but not always.

    I didn't read the book, so I wonder what I would think about it if I read the book. For some reason I really loved Kris Kristofferson as Aniston's dad!

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