tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3367581551556551352.post7650811241588373504..comments2008-10-08T16:01:34.835-05:00Nap Wardenhttps://profiles.google.com/109367337312073850671noreply@blogger.comBlogger25125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3367581551556551352.post-33073867858614515062008-10-08T16:01:00.000-05:002008-10-08T16:01:00.000-05:00Sounds like she is having a hard time dealing with her emotions and expressing herself in an appropriate way. Also craving to have some control over her world.<BR/><BR/>You could try working with her on appropriate ways to deal with emotions. Show what to do when she is mad. <BR/><BR/>Also, give tons of opportunity to have control. Give her choices that don't matter to you. What color of cup, which shirt to wear, whether she puts on her coat or her shoes first when leaving the house. and so on. The more control she has over her world the less likely she will be to desparately try to grasp it. <BR/><BR/>Parenting is hard, but they are certianly sooooooo worth it, huh?<BR/><BR/>HUGS!Corey~living and lovinghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05719661119360487023noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3367581551556551352.post-36563053385025465322008-10-08T14:33:00.000-05:002008-10-08T14:33:00.000-05:00It's Three. Three is an angry, vindictive bitch who makes kids do things that they freakin' know not to do. She keeps peeking her head out around these parts, so we can drown our sorrows in wine together.<BR/><BR/>At least they're cute.Burgh Babyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09123901504643963583noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3367581551556551352.post-4684878976168535572008-10-08T10:17:00.000-05:002008-10-08T10:17:00.000-05:00Three is much harder than Two and FOUR tops them all, for the better. I remember what clothing battles I had with my daughter at 3. I would stick her on the porch in winter when she demanded wearing her sundress with no tights or a long sleeve shirt underneath.EatPlayLovehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01768078593549284605noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3367581551556551352.post-40960798624068915562008-10-07T22:25:00.000-05:002008-10-07T22:25:00.000-05:00There is always a phase. When you get past the dressing battles and the toy snatching, you'll move on to refusing to use the toilet and not eating food with the letter "t" in it. THERE'S ALWAYS SOMETHING! And as they get older, they get weirder, I swear. My almost 20 year old son still baffles me as much as he did when he was three, and he's in freaking college now!<BR/><BR/>Take deep breaths, put YOURSELF in time out in a room with the door shut when you feel you're losing your cool, and CHOOSE YOUR BATTLES. I personally am not above running errands with a kid in their PJs all day long. If that's the worst thing that happens that day, you're on a roll : )Shanahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09332633230214817022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3367581551556551352.post-1734165948974178172008-10-07T19:04:00.000-05:002008-10-07T19:04:00.000-05:00Now I have something to really look forward too! I think it has a lot to do with the lack of emotional control. Another good read is Beyond Timeout. Thank goodness for Merlot, right!HeatherYhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16381222473405971894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3367581551556551352.post-3303237832681942582008-10-07T17:22:00.000-05:002008-10-07T17:22:00.000-05:00i heard 3 is the terrible twos with attitude !!! let's just say 4 is helping out either. my sass battles all day long. i can tell it is a sense of her trying to see how far she can push it. some days/weeks she does great and then she takes 15 steps back and it is crazy. i curse her under my breath......yes I DOFeenerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05081885076553861768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3367581551556551352.post-69919410706703373382008-10-07T17:14:00.000-05:002008-10-07T17:14:00.000-05:00NOOOO! Don't tell me this. My son is about to turn 2 and I was hoping this phase would be over in the next few months. If I'm dealing with this behavior in another year I think I'll have to start hitting the sippy cup myself.Alyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09865957000184839906noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3367581551556551352.post-37639045566456008952008-10-07T15:46:00.000-05:002008-10-07T15:46:00.000-05:00i have a book to recommend: "You can't make me, but i can be persuaded" by Cynthia Tobias. it has helped at our house. <BR/><BR/>also, we have a marble jar to reinforce good behavior rather than always focusing on the negative. when she does a chore without being asked she gets a marble in her happy jar, when she says yes mam without me having to remind her...a marble. when caught sharing with her brother, etc. it has helped me to notice all of the good that goes on in the middle of all that makes me understand why some animals eat their young! <BR/><BR/>good luck! i'll be back to read the rest of your comments. i'm all for some extra advice/help from all the moms out there!Nataliehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02498212004696635705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3367581551556551352.post-54364136745809679062008-10-07T15:12:00.000-05:002008-10-07T15:12:00.000-05:00Yup, my daughter is the SAME way. Dressing everyday and night is a nightmare. I seriously think age 3 has been much harder than 2 for us.Momisodeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06752015177628948631noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3367581551556551352.post-17680841643076388632008-10-07T14:39:00.000-05:002008-10-07T14:39:00.000-05:00Wish I could help you, honey. I am just learning about age two.Damselflyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00139191935886860839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3367581551556551352.post-70060266371166385662008-10-07T14:37:00.000-05:002008-10-07T14:37:00.000-05:00No, you're not horrible - she is being obnoxious in the same way my almost 3 year old is obnoxious. Boundaries, she's testing boundaries - I have to keep telling myself that. Personally, I'm working on being the mature one (and not sinking to her level) and waiting out this phase. Can't really deal with parenting/child rearing books. This too shall pass...Mommychickyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07755196901431557053noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3367581551556551352.post-4675926042138760692008-10-07T14:01:00.000-05:002008-10-07T14:01:00.000-05:00I am ANYTHING but a parenting expert, but I just finished reading 1-2-3 Magic, and it was really helpful. The strategies really help! Hang in there!LikeAstaRhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18361831622684861059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3367581551556551352.post-74773374069898234522008-10-07T13:58:00.000-05:002008-10-07T13:58:00.000-05:00It's three. And, it comes in waves. There will be days of difficulty followed by wonderful. You just never know when 3 will rear its ugly head. (Today is a 3 day over here.)anglophilefootballfanatic.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3367581551556551352.post-78045045920237088572008-10-07T13:49:00.000-05:002008-10-07T13:49:00.000-05:00My second child is almost four, thank the Lord! I often say, "God Bless the 3 year olds." Three is difficult. My friend recommended I'm Three Years Old by Jerri Wolfe. It is written from a three year old's perspective. I read it once, but probably should have read it a dozen times. Good luck, and remember all of us moms who are walking through this age with you!Tonyanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3367581551556551352.post-2975744120870069912008-10-07T13:27:00.000-05:002008-10-07T13:27:00.000-05:00I feel your pain! I've got 2, count em, 2 three year olds and a 4 year old. We are always in a phase of some sort.<BR/><BR/>My dr. recommended that 123 book too. If I can stop screaming like a crazy person long enough I'll have to check it out.<BR/><BR/>As far as the clothes go give her a choice of what to wear...this OR this. One of my 3yo's dresses herself all the time. The other one says "I cain't!" (yea, we're southern.)<BR/><BR/>Just remember...it's not you.leighhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00016902294200659689noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3367581551556551352.post-67463155786921055982008-10-07T13:23:00.000-05:002008-10-07T13:23:00.000-05:00terrible threes is what is happing. you are great by taken a vow not to yell. I try to do the same, but some times I grow like five heads and some kind of mom monster come out... ERRRR watch out kiddie poo...Confessions of A Mississippi Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17848088462204658059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3367581551556551352.post-55461282595492316832008-10-07T12:05:00.000-05:002008-10-07T12:05:00.000-05:00You're not missing anything at all. That's the way it is. You just need a zen-like acceptance of it until the phase is over.<BR/><BR/>I'll second the comments about wine and 1-2-3 magic though.Heinoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00873541253069090821noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3367581551556551352.post-77722986296232807212008-10-07T09:16:00.000-05:002008-10-07T09:16:00.000-05:00who named them the terrible <I>2s??</I> three is pretty nasty, too. hang in there. i leave you with my mantra:<BR/><BR/>this too shall pass....the planet of janethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11444337511603560544noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3367581551556551352.post-77616179585288814952008-10-07T08:14:00.000-05:002008-10-07T08:14:00.000-05:00I am there right now too. My favorite little man is driving me bonkers lately. I swear you wrote that post about him. This is just a faze right?!Ellynhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08907807448468020160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3367581551556551352.post-45938901349344022322008-10-07T07:48:00.000-05:002008-10-07T07:48:00.000-05:00Yes. THREE is harder than TWO. Let no one tell you differently. My reasoning? You can excuse a 2 year old for throwing tantrums and not listening, they're just babies and still learning. But at 3? They're doing a lot of it "on purpose" and you can SEE that they know better, but can't control their emotions yet.<BR/><BR/>I can hardly wait for their puberty, how about you?Traceyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09606831315390042198noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3367581551556551352.post-47357586132692410822008-10-07T07:38:00.000-05:002008-10-07T07:38:00.000-05:00Uh oh...not that I have a 3 yr old, but it does sound like something of a phase. We seem to be in and out of many different ones at 19 months over on my end. Whew!Stephaniehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17487994855495268941noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3367581551556551352.post-11110297209727338602008-10-07T07:11:00.000-05:002008-10-07T07:11:00.000-05:00Four words... "1-2-3 Magic"<BR/><BR/>A Book by Dr. Thomas W. Phelan<BR/><BR/>Couldn't have disciplined my older three without it and now introducing it to my 22 month old. Your 'peach' will do great with it since she seems to like the control and you're avoiding the yelling. We still use it with the 12 yr old only in 'code'. It's a great re-read, too just to brush up on the non-yelling!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3367581551556551352.post-81718637694126184172008-10-07T03:02:00.000-05:002008-10-07T03:02:00.000-05:00man, It's not you. It's them. <BR/><BR/>If I told my son that we're having candy bars for breakfast, he would still yell and scream, "Noooooo, Mommy!" and melt into a puddle. <BR/><BR/>I've turned into a total recluse since he refuses to get dressed, and some days... wait, who are we kidding, MOST days, I'm too worn out to fight it. <BR/><BR/>Hang in there, NW. We're in for a bumpy ride.GHDhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11495399501576619437noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3367581551556551352.post-78005872034683615422008-10-06T23:19:00.000-05:002008-10-06T23:19:00.000-05:00This is why the good Lord gave us wine.Cheri @ Blog This Mom!http://www.blogger.com/profile/17088657210215863433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3367581551556551352.post-85967507342307619972008-10-06T22:55:00.000-05:002008-10-06T22:55:00.000-05:00Just a phase I'm sure. But man, it is draining isn't it? Ben is such a freaking handful right now and he is only a year and a half. I'm dreading two. <BR/>My three year old seems to be an emotional basket case. Happy and fine one minute and screaming and crying the next. It is like I live in a house of tiny psychos. <BR/><BR/>;)<BR/><BR/>Hang in there. It gets better. :)Kathrynhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14339665205284492242noreply@blogger.com