tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3367581551556551352.post1446367337992399498..comments2024-03-27T02:14:02.107-05:00Comments on The Chronicles of a Chicago Mom: RushCynthiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00625673916138703709noreply@blogger.comBlogger38125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3367581551556551352.post-71411845777696070242008-03-22T11:13:00.000-05:002008-03-22T11:13:00.000-05:00Ugh, I can totally relate.It does feel like Formal...Ugh, I can totally relate.<BR/><BR/>It does feel like Formal Sorority Rush. Which, I did, like OMG 15 years ago.<BR/><BR/>I tried Gymboree when Angry Toddler was smaller. I never fit in.<BR/><BR/>He's now in preschool, thank god. I don't even click with the mommies there.<BR/><BR/>I think I'm way too snarktastic for them.<BR/><BR/>I wish I lived closer to all my blogger buddies, they seem more my style.<BR/><BR/>Good luck!Julie {Angry Julie Monday}https://www.blogger.com/profile/10482539881072896606noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3367581551556551352.post-40506291350846692312008-03-22T08:11:00.000-05:002008-03-22T08:11:00.000-05:00That is completely insane. This does nothing for ...That is completely insane. This does nothing for you since you will be hanging out with the nanny...is the nanny nice? I would throw the audition.<BR/><BR/>I agree with the others...find a good MOMS Club, Early childhood PTA or church group where no auditioning is necessary.Texashollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17982077447405220888noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3367581551556551352.post-84510847806566747902008-03-19T13:16:00.000-05:002008-03-19T13:16:00.000-05:00Passing inspection ... sounds weird. Maybe the oth...Passing inspection ... sounds weird. Maybe the other mom works and just isn't used to how things go...? But you're right, sometimes you wonder if you're dating again!Damselflyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00139191935886860839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3367581551556551352.post-69597804674597363792008-03-19T12:35:00.000-05:002008-03-19T12:35:00.000-05:00Great topic..we didn't "do" play dates with my ste...Great topic..we didn't "do" play dates with my step son unless they were with children of our friends. Now that he's 8 though it's a different story. If a school friend is going to take our child and be responsible for him for a set amount of time..damn straight there is a "interview" of sorts. I don't want some drunk or space case taking my kid to the bowling alley..you know what I mean. As far as becoming friends with these parents...ech..it happens it happens. <BR/>If you are feeling RUSH pressure I'd say run away! (ps found you from Melinda Zook)MPhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03981936279721759649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3367581551556551352.post-29104562079649933212008-03-19T07:10:00.000-05:002008-03-19T07:10:00.000-05:00I know what you mean about finding other mom frien...I know what you mean about finding other mom friends. It's actually harder than dating because not only do you have to get along, and your kids get along, but you have to like their kids. There's the kicker sometimes.Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09037928148778848386noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3367581551556551352.post-7848790147215430932008-03-18T22:48:00.000-05:002008-03-18T22:48:00.000-05:00WOW! I feel like we must live on totally different...WOW! I feel like we must live on totally different planets..... :) :) Although we're both super-heroines, so I guess that makes sense;)CChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01537821831479150677noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3367581551556551352.post-86057553515050532462008-03-18T17:22:00.000-05:002008-03-18T17:22:00.000-05:00INDEED! Who needs her?INDEED! Who needs her?Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18361831622684861059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3367581551556551352.post-7766066357014590442008-03-18T15:39:00.000-05:002008-03-18T15:39:00.000-05:00Um, yeah, that's weird.No way would I have shown u...Um, yeah, that's weird.<BR/>No way would I have shown up for coffee so she can decide whether I am an acceptable mother.<BR/>When I used to take my son to Music Class I was always amazed at all the nannies there.<BR/>You have to tell us how it goes when you meet her!Life As I Know Ithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09492465378321819342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3367581551556551352.post-57144033232354931782008-03-18T14:44:00.000-05:002008-03-18T14:44:00.000-05:00Good grief that's messed up! Run, don't walk away...Good grief that's messed up! Run, don't walk away, run. I'm with burgh's baby mom - wear the jeans.<BR/><BR/>I lost all friends when I had kids - I either scared them off or grossed them out. Welcome to the dirty diaper trenches.Joannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16052498539654003254noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3367581551556551352.post-84134929271111637092008-03-18T14:02:00.000-05:002008-03-18T14:02:00.000-05:00You aren't nuts. It seems to me that the mom shou...You aren't nuts. It seems to me that the mom should trust the nanny's judgement and if the nanny thinks you are "acceptable" then shouldn't that be good enough? Especially since it is the nanny that will be the one to interface with you at the playdates.<BR/><BR/>So you have to go through all of this and you still don't get a mommy friend out of the deal? Ugh!Beth Cotellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14536268080265726705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3367581551556551352.post-77168605126952843902008-03-18T13:03:00.000-05:002008-03-18T13:03:00.000-05:00Not at all..I can totally relate. I am in the same...Not at all..I can totally relate. I am in the same boat..since moving to my home with my now hubby, I have had absolutely zero friends...my kids are getting too big for play dates,either...I can't figure out why I have such a hard time making friends now either...used to have tons, now..zip, nada...zero...<BR/>Good luck!DIXIECHICKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05223036513362572142noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3367581551556551352.post-39963082097202374582008-03-18T13:01:00.000-05:002008-03-18T13:01:00.000-05:00Okay. I'm truly creeped out by having to go throu...Okay. I'm truly creeped out by having to go through a formal rush to make friends for the kiddos. And, a nanny? Strange. Very strange.<BR/><BR/>Rush the Delta House. They throw good toga parties.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3367581551556551352.post-23061567580277334652008-03-18T13:00:00.000-05:002008-03-18T13:00:00.000-05:00This is too weird...and reminds me of the time I t...This is too weird...and reminds me of the time I took my little one to Gymboree and wasn't aware we had to take off our shoes until it was too late. Needless to say, my toenails were in rough shape and I got some pretty interesting looks from moms who had perfectly manicured feet. <BR/><BR/>And don't worry...mommy friends will come. We move a lot and it's funny how all of the woman friends I make in a new town are through the kids and their schools/activities. It'll be interesting to see what you think of the mom with the nanny. Let us know!thatcoolbroadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04137906903243605367noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3367581551556551352.post-55573583359310517382008-03-18T12:30:00.000-05:002008-03-18T12:30:00.000-05:00Perfectly stated! I would love to have more Mommy...Perfectly stated! I would love to have more Mommy friends, but the 'interview' process is so painful I often just opt for playing in the front yard . . . I judge myself as a parent hard enough, I don't need some random stranger doing it for me!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3367581551556551352.post-22392387826586170802008-03-18T12:17:00.000-05:002008-03-18T12:17:00.000-05:00Unreal. Just imagine what the nanny interview pro...Unreal. Just imagine what the nanny interview process was with Jan's mom. I wonder if she had to meet the parents of prospective nannies as well?Tootsie Farklepantshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18336671002327112885noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3367581551556551352.post-25637926556499103902008-03-18T11:14:00.001-05:002008-03-18T11:14:00.001-05:00My initial thought was "wow, she doesn't trust her...My initial thought was "wow, she doesn't trust her nanny's judgement". I have never managed to make friends at these Mommy & Me things - my daughter is in love with a little girl in her music class but her mother shows no interest in me and since if I want our daughters to hang out, we would have to hang out - this friendship is going to be confined to the classroom.DEHausfrauhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07755196901431557053noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3367581551556551352.post-85302107380120192182008-03-18T11:14:00.000-05:002008-03-18T11:14:00.000-05:00Wear the jeans, PLEASE! Just wear the jeans.The w...Wear the jeans, PLEASE! Just wear the jeans.<BR/><BR/>The whole thing is just weird. Maybe I just think that because I can't afford a nanny and probably wouldn't use one even if I could.Burgh Babyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09123901504643963583noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3367581551556551352.post-3187132569324601722008-03-18T11:11:00.000-05:002008-03-18T11:11:00.000-05:00i guess the question is if she is a working mom i ...i guess the question is if she is a working mom i kind of understand that she would want to meet you first (although maybe just going to a park with the kids on a weekend could work). but if she is a sahm, and that is the nanny, she should just come to the class once and get to know you. but i guess that is happening anyway. i think the whole meeting moms is strange as well. i was lucky with my first and meet a group i liked right away at a class. however i notice at classes with my second, i do not meet any one. it might be me b/c with my second i don't feel the need. however, i do feel as if us moms are checking each other out. who is wearing what, driving what , where one lives. i hate it. yet i find myself doing it. i have seen some snobby ass moms with 5 carat rings on, and i simply don't even bother with them.justmehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05081885076553861768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3367581551556551352.post-25462614717277939702008-03-18T10:09:00.000-05:002008-03-18T10:09:00.000-05:00You are SO right. I feel the same way. The major...You are SO right. I feel the same way. The majority of my friends are either not moms yet or working moms. Makes the days long and rather lonely. I know what you mean, though about "auditioning." Good luck!Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18361831622684861059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3367581551556551352.post-63637223861292669672008-03-18T10:06:00.000-05:002008-03-18T10:06:00.000-05:00I think it's a byproduct of our uptight society. I...I think it's a byproduct of our uptight society. <BR/><BR/>I met a woman the other night who said, "I won't let my teenager get together with someone whose family I don't know."<BR/><BR/>I thought that was sad. It limited this woman -- and her son -- to people the mom knows through church or school, by and large. <BR/><BR/>Me, when my kids come home and say they want to play with so-and-so, I check out the school directory. Drop them an e-mail if I can. Let the kids call and ask if they can play. I figure life is a great adventure and we'll learn something about someone different from us.<BR/><BR/>But not everyone is like me, which is usually a good thing. In this case, I'm not so sure it is. <BR/><BR/>A bit of caution is one thing. But paranoia is another.<BR/><BR/>Hang in there. You'll find your niche.Susan Helene Gottfriedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12778191943289129869noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3367581551556551352.post-90596795926629914142008-03-18T09:44:00.000-05:002008-03-18T09:44:00.000-05:00wear the flaming jeans!wear the flaming jeans!laura jean 2https://www.blogger.com/profile/08062595429739525194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3367581551556551352.post-23247999919954226112008-03-18T09:34:00.000-05:002008-03-18T09:34:00.000-05:00I also wish I knew more moms with kids. No play da...I also wish I knew more moms with kids. No play dates so far. Language has been a problem.....I think they avoid me because its so hard to understand my Indonesian. So, I've been failing my interviews I guess.Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03542715899155247984noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3367581551556551352.post-1134587057298582432008-03-18T09:10:00.000-05:002008-03-18T09:10:00.000-05:00I always wonder why is it so hard to make mommy fr...I always wonder why is it so hard to make mommy friends in "real life" when it's so easy on the Internet.<BR/><BR/>It does feel strange that nanny fed her your "info" as playdate potential. <BR/><BR/>At least she's being really careful about who Jan plays with - that is probably a good sign.Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14258405168792203613noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3367581551556551352.post-18837674320325509722008-03-18T09:09:00.000-05:002008-03-18T09:09:00.000-05:00Thank goodness for timing. LOL.Yes. Yes. Yes. ...Thank goodness for timing. LOL.<BR/><BR/>Yes. Yes. Yes. I always feel as if I am auditioning. And yes, I have had playdates with nannys. They aren't so much fun.<BR/><BR/>Hope it goes smoothly for you.OHmommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12712111068636100187noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3367581551556551352.post-50455185776608899012008-03-18T08:41:00.000-05:002008-03-18T08:41:00.000-05:00Mom friends are not easy to come by but it does ge...Mom friends are not easy to come by but it does get better once the kids are in school. Good luck on your "interview"Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14095593176398409401noreply@blogger.com